Pamela Star
Certified Divorce and Parenting Coach
Your Support and Guide
through
Divorce and Parenting
I’ve been there.
I wish someone had told me that even though I might not have been able to have a “good” divorce, I could’ve had a BETTER divorce, and so could our children—and HOW to do that.
I wish I’d had someone who truly understood the effect my divorce was having on me and my children, and why.
Your therapist, while wonderful, is probably not an expert on the Family Court system, and might not even be well-versed in the sometimes maddening effects of going through divorce, and trying to be a great parent through it all.
And your attorney—I hope you have one, but I can still help if you don’t—doesn’t have time to guide you through the minutia of strategy while balancing the emotional roller coaster.
I am here to bridge that gap.
Services
Child-Centered
Parent Coaching
Your relationship with your child is the most important thing to you and to them.
From amicable divorce, where there is still a grieving process, to High Conflict, where children are experiencing trauma in real time, it’s easy to lose your child’s trust.
They need the most intentional parenting, which can feel impossible amidst the overwhelm.
I can help you maintain (or regain) a positive, healthy parental relationship with your child.
This is especially necessary in situations where custody is dependent on your ability to parent in a way that puts your child’s emotional needs at the forefront.
Co-Parenting Coaching
You and your co-parent are doing your best to work together to make everything sustainable for everyone involved, but especially your child.
I am a Certified Co-Parenting Specialist, trained by Christina McGhee, MSW.
I can help you make all of the pieces fit, without sacrificing what’s best for your child.
This looks like help with:
-Parenting Plans
-Communication
-Making Child-centered decisions
-Handling Disagreements
-New Partners and their children
-Adjustments to the schedule
For parents who want to see me together, I remain unbiased and non-judgemental, facilitating them in finding their way to child-centered compromises.
High Conflict
Divorce Coaching
You’ve been in a toxic relationship and are separating, or planning to.
A High Conflict Divorce Coach is especially important when there are children involved. Child custody is often on the line in these cases.
My extensive training and experience in High Conflict Divorce means I truly understand everything you’re dealing with and how to support you.
I’m trauma-informed and my toolkit is filled with everything from unique somatic processes to basic self-care that you might not realize will make a big difference right now.
I can help with:
-Writing emails & all communication
-Healing from emotional abuse
-Supporting your child through this
-Preparing for Evaluations
-What to Document and how
All services $100 per one hour session. Travel fee for in-person.
About me
Life has taken me on the most beautiful series of perfect storms. I can say that now, looking back!
I had my first child in 2004, became a birth doula in 2005, had my second child in 2007, then separated from my high school sweetheart in 2010.
The last 20+ years have been filled with parenting and doula-ing, most of it as a single momma.
I help people do hard things, things that can feel impossible at times.
Just as I was inspired to become a doula after giving birth, I was inspired to be a divorce coach after going through it myself.
Just as I wanted to help people protect their experience of becoming parents, I now seek to help parents protect their relationships with their children throughout divorce, from their daily interactions to those stressful days in court.
There’s so much that can be done to improve the experience and the outcomes.
And I truly believe it all makes us stronger and more amazing.
Contact
(415) 595-6017
Call or Text
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Pamela Star is not a therapist, nor an attorney. Any support and guidance given is not legal advice and should not be taken as mental health treatment .